This was a question asked at my recent Stress Awareness Workshop. The answer is of course, 'Yes'. After all, what is stress but the adverse reaction to the pressures of life?
Naturally we all experience the fight/flight response and in isolation this is a healthy reaction which aids our survival. However, in today's busy, hectic, world we may not get opportunity to relax between episodes of pressure. The dripping tap of pressure gradually fills our 'bucket' until it flows over. This is when we experience stress. It must be remembered stress itself is not an illness but can lead to illness, showing itself in physical, emotional and behavioural symptoms.
So, in response to the question, yes, stress advisers do experience stress. I can't speak for other advisers but for myself I believe I am more aware of the triggers and more able to contribute physical symptoms and emotional responses to the fact that the pressures of life are beginning to get on top of me. This is turn means I am able to address these symptoms through cushioning techniques, or changing something in my life, perhaps sooner that if I were not otherwise aware.
It doesn't mean they necessarily go away, however!
For example, we've just had my husband's teenage son move in with us. Having lived together on our own for eleven years to suddenly have to share our house with someone else has proved a challenge for both of us. I know I am finding the situation difficult as my psoriasis has flared up. In turn my husband has become very jumpy and irritable, both reactions totally out of character for him. Now, in my workshops I advise candidates to identify the sources of pressure in their lives and divide them into two groups: those they can do something about and those they can't. Candidates are given tools to address the things they can change and techniques to cushion themselves against the things they have no control over. My current situation has made me aware that sometimes things can be changed but there may not be an instant solution. I shall be more aware of this in future when delivering my workshops. Yes, our situation can be changed. My husband's son is of an age where he can rent a studio flat and have a place of his own, but this process will take time, and some encouragement, for a 19 year old who is used to having everything done for him.
In the meantime I will take time to remember to breathe correctly when I am about to get worked up because he's left all the lights on again, the back door unlocked, or his boots in the middle of the floor. I will make time for myself to relax in the bath, shut myself away in the bedroom with a good book or meditate. All of these things will help, but they won't change the situation unless we take control of it.
So, in answer to the question ... yes we do. However, I believe we are probably better equipped to deal with pressures when they occur and to recognise the signs and symptoms sooner and react sooner to them. Perhaps just recognising that the physical symptoms or emotional behaviours we are displaying have a cause means we become less attached to them occurring. They still occur but we worry less about them as we know the reason for them being there. Knowing this means we have one less pressure to react to.
So relax ..... and breathe! xx
Each month, throughout 2017, I will be posting in more detail about the topic of the month. Let me know if there's anything specific you'd like me to discuss.